Friday, February 27, 2009

to be or not to be...

concerned that is. We've had a few run ins with the situation, and really I don't think it's a matter of concern, just what we should say to him. :)

Ryan has always had a thing for pretty girls, since he was 4 months old standing on my lap peering over my shoulder at the pretty girl behind us Christmas Eve night at church. This past summer, he's now 4, we couldn't find him momentarily at the beach and found him several yards away staring at two girls sunbathing. Yes, he's a boy, but he's only 4. My husband says it's normal. I'm sure it is, but I've never been through this and am not sure how to approach it, or do I just let it be...

Yesterday while Rob and Ryan were looking at their giant Marvel comic figure book, there was a woman super hero. Ryan says" wow dad, she has big.....muscles. Wait, what are those things called again?" Rob said "That is her chest", Ryan, " no dad, there is another name I'm sure." Rob changed the subject. That's probably what I would have done too.

This morning he was sitting next to me while I nursed Olivia. He doesn't usually pay us any notice while she's nursing, but this morning when she was done he said "sorry Olivia, mama has no more milk in her patches!" I said, "in my patches?" Ryan, "yeah, those patches on your muscles." What I really wanted to do was laugh because at this time I didn't know of the conversation Ryan and his father had yesterday. Instead, I changed the subject.

Is there a right way to approach this? Do we tell him they are called boobs? Or do we just leave it at muscles or chest, chest seems appropriate for his 4 year old mind. What would you do?

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3 comments:

Claire said...

LOL. This is cute =X My 3 year old calls them "boobies" ( thanks Dad!) so I'd probably in your situation, explain they are _____( whatever you want him to call them) and girls have them & they are for feeding babies. Simple, truthful & leaves out the whole ..well.. sexualized breasts issue that most American males have..He's only 4, that can come MUCH later. lol
=)

Confessions of Super Mom said...

In my house they are breasts, but that is just us. We use all "proper" terms with body parts. I like what Claire above me said explain it simply.

Gena said...

I would do what Claire said! Just keep it simple. The girls call them boobs here.